The Naked Coach
November 19, 2010 § Leave a comment
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how to describe my coaching style, we creative types don’t often fit into neat boxes for very long and flexibility has always been my mantra. When a client needs me to be flexible about some detail of a work contract I often reply that yes, I am flexible… bendy even! And so it is with my coaching work, flexing to meet the various needs of various clients at various points in their journeys toward their best selves. Flexible, within the integrity of my own true self.
Does your behaviour serve you well?
Does it support the integrity of your true self?
Flexibility is important. No question about that. Many aspects of our lives feel like they are shifting under foot these days and we need to be flexible and adapt in order to continue to thrive. So when is it good to be less flexible? And what’s with the provocative title on this post? I’ll tell you.
When you tell yourself that you’re being flexible and you’re really pushing your own needs deep down to please others, perhaps even without them asking or indeed knowing that you are doing so, then you need to step back and examine who that behaviour really serves. Are you being flexible, while staying true to your self and your needs? And are you flexible enough to voice those needs to others and have them fulfilled? Or does your idea of flexibility really mean you are hiding your true self?
The Naked Coach idea came about as I was thinking of how to describe the process of stripping away all the stuff in your mind that doesn’t serve you. The stuff that is getting in the way of you being your best self. The clutter that is blocking your true path. Strip all that away and you’re left with your own truth. Facing that truth can be a challenge for some of us but it is a challenge well worth meeting head on.
It is possible to be flexible and remain true to your self and your own needs at the same time. It may take a bit of practice, perhaps a little coaching along the way, but you can do it. I believe in you.